torn between old love and new love

i have been in a relationship with my B/F for 8 years now but i am in love with someone else. the other man is from another country is here on a working visa, trying to get his PR. My b/f and i dont have sex, all passion is gone and i have tryed but im not attracted to him now.

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1st.

i could be with my lover. (future is unknown

75%

2nd.

i could stay with my b/f and have a dull, lovless marriage

25%

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Great thinking! That rlleay breaks the mold!

Added by Anonymous - about 1 year ago

Here is your real probelem: You want to leave your present boyfriend, whom you don't love and who is holding you hostage with threats of suicide,for a different guy who already has a girlfriend. First, ditch the boyfriend. He is thinking only of himself which means he really doesn't love you regardless of what he says. Second let the new guy go, he already has someone. If you try to get between him and his newby, then you will be the one who gets hurt, sooner or later. Third, go find someone who is stable and single. You will not believe how good the freedom will feel. VOE

Added by Anonymous - almost 2 years ago

From what I understand you aren't interested in your bf. And his life is NOT your responsibility. You can't carry that burden, its not fair to you. However, your "lover" as you put it, doesnt seem all that into you if he is considering being with this new girl he met. I say you need to leave both men alone, and be independent for a while, do something you have always wanted to do, focus on YOUR life for a while, and I promise, you'll meet a guy in the process, one that is totally in love with ONLY you, and that you are crazy about.

Added by Anonymous - almost 2 years ago

i have been with him for 8 years, he has no family in australia, there all in NZ. last time we nearly broke up my b/f became suicidal. i dont want to be responsible for his death, i still care about him alot. a year ago i chose my B/f over my lover and i have regreted it every day. My lover's parents are ver traditional and want him to marry a girl of the same ethnicity(chinese). Now he has told me that he has meet a girl and on his holiday back to china in a month will becide if they will be together.

Added by Anonymous - almost 2 years ago

He's your boyfriend, not your husband. What's the problem? VOE

Added by Anonymous - almost 2 years ago

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