self esteem issues

im 16 and not at all unattractive or overweight or anything. i've had plenty of guys after me and my friends say i can get whoever i want. but one guy treated me reaaal bad. i've never had a proper boyfriend because i have such low confidence in myself. i need some wise words.

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comments please :)
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help :(
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Focus on your positives! Maybe you have great eyes or you are an amazing singer or you are kind or you love animals or you get all As in history. Everyone has SOMETHING that should make them really proud and so you need to focus on that stuff.
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
We never see ourselves the way that others see us and we are always so much more critical. The fact is, you are just fine the way you are. Ask those closest to you...friends, family, even your grandparents. The opinion of one guy should not change everything.
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
Two lessons learned, then. One, not this guy, nor any other guy, is perfect. He's not what you dreamed that he would be. You had this overly romantic vision of him and, in reality, he's just a guy with flaws. Second, you've learned to approach relationships with a measure of caution and to let trust build slowly. This is a good thing. Consider yourself smarter and wiser. With that you can start looking forward and stop suffering from the past. You can't change the past but you can improve your prospects for the future. VOE
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
it's me- i think the main reason he's damaged me is because he's the only guy i have ever liked so much that i put all my trust and confidence in him. i dont easily trust people either which makes that waay harder.
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
Sure sounds like your self esteem has taken a hit and I am so very sorry about that. But you need to look at the totality of your life and not just at the opinion of one person. There are hundreds of people that likely think you are simply awesome....focus on them. David
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
One guy? One? And he destroyed your self confidence, huh? As you say, plenty of other guys are after you but when plenty vs. one, the one wins. I don't think it's your confidence that is damaged, I think it's your pride. A guy dumped you, or otherwise screwed you over, and you're hurt and angry about it. Sure, who wouldn't be? But I really have a hard time believing that the actions of this one guy caused you to crawl into your shell, afraid to come out again. Especially when so many others would love to be with you. VOE
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
I think the problem is them not you because if they love you they'll understand and accept who and what you are.
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago

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