Never gonna get over my first love

My first love was years ago but I still find myself thinking about him. In fact I am even dreaming about him at night (which is awesome cuz it is like I am right with him). I am married so I don't know what is going on. Is it true that no matter what you never get over your first love??

Final Results

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Yes
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56%
2nd.
No
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31%
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Tell Me More!!!
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13%

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You will because we all did. Try to write a goodbye letter to him (but do not send it). "I loved you in the past, but now it is time to let you do. I need to enjoy the life that I have right here, right now". Tiffany
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
You will. You really will. Some people take 6 months and some people take 6 years...or 16! But the more you focus on him the less likely that you will move past this. Focus on the rest of your life instead.
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
It is pretty common to think back on a lost love, esp when there are times of stress in the current relationship. A little of that is okay, but obsessing will indicate a problem. JD
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
How long has it been? Like a year or like 10 years? If it has been a REALLY long time they you prolly need profesional help to get over it. But it will happen 4 u!!
Added by Anonymous - 5 months ago
You will get over it becauz I got over mine && it was the longest year of my life but I did it and I will never look back!
Added by Anonymous - 5 months ago
Everyone has a first love and everyone gets over their first love. You need to stop using this memory as some sort of crutch. The fact is that you are not the same person and he isn't either. David
Added by Anonymous - 5 months ago
I wonder if you only reflect back on your first love when your marriage is troubled or you do not feel connected to your spouse. Try working hard on your marriage and hopefully these feelings for the ex with disappear. Steph
Added by Anonymous - 5 months ago
I understand exactly how you feel. It's so weird because like you say you know its over but some small Part Of you feels it's still going to work. I try to realise that I am only fantasising about this small hope and it will not go back to what it was. We both need to look forward and realise it didn't last for a reason. I wish you luck!xx
Added by Anonymous - 5 months ago
The reality is that the guy who was your first love isn't the same guy as he was then. Over time, you've conjured up this fantasy about him that he couldn't possibly live up to. By allowing yourself to live in the past, in this fantasy, you are cheating yourself and your husband out of a REAL relationship. Real life has good times and bad times where fantasies don't. You need to team up with your husband to enjoy the good times and team up with him to ward off the bad times. Resorting to fantasizing about an old love isn't good for your marriage. Time to leave the past in the past and focus on the future. VOE
Added by Anonymous - 5 months ago
He may hold a special part of your heart forever, but he should not be in the front of your mind at all times. If he is, you need to examine what is going on in your marriage that has your mind wandering. Jess
Added by Anonymous - 5 months ago

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