My Boyfriends Bestfriend is a Girl

dont jump to concluions...there just friends

innocent untill proven guilty

ask him straight up straight away.

I think you should confront the both of them an tell your boyfriend how you feel about them being so close

That really sounds sketchy! I personally think that is seriously not right if he talks to her more then you! Something might be going on. Confront him about it, like I said, he should not be paying more attention to his "friend" then his own girlfriend!

If he wanted to be with her then he would be with her. The fact of the matter is that he is with you and not with her. Until that changes or you have more evidence, just chill out & enjoy your life.

Don't worry, since they are probably just friends. If he really wanted to be with her then he would break it off with you. Either you trust him or you do not. CV

I'd break up with him.

You deserve someones complete attention and not just 50% of some guy. It would be one thing if he was meeting her for coffee once a month or texting a few times a week or calling her twice a month. But this sure seems excessive. Plus, he really should respect the fact that this hurts your feelings. Sammy

I have the same situation just turned around. I know it may annoy you, but you have to realize your the one he's with not her. She's his friend, your his girlfriend and that means something.

Actually I would suggest that you just talk to him first and he he says that they are "just friends", then talk to her and ask her if she likes him even the slightest bit. Than from there you should tell your boyfriend how you feel!

remember that he is dating you, not his best friend.

dont confront her, she isnt the problem. the problem is that YOUR bf is taking the time to talk to her a lot. he prob likes the "new" attention, but would never want to date her. or maybe he would but he loves you more. or maybe he does want her. either way you cant leave it. YOU DONT DESERVE THAT! tell him whats up, thats it bothering you and is NOT acceptable and ask what he is willing to do about it. if he is willing to cut back then great, ask why he was talking to her so much in the first place. if not, BUH BYE!

Just talk to him about it?

My boyfriend's like that too. He's always talking to her and never me. But does their chat stretch to real life company? Unless it does, it's usually meaningless. don't stress.

The question that you have to ask yourself is: "Is he worth all of this anquish and frustration?" Since you first posted this several months ago and he doesn't appear to have changed, your choices are to accept it or dump him. You aren't going to change him. VOE

i cant stand that he gives her more attention than me

It's wrong if your boyfriend's best friend is a girl and he gives her more attention than he gives you.

MAKE THE BESTFRIENDS TELL U IF THEY HAVE SUMTHIN GOING ON TO LEAVE THEM IF THEY DO AND U WONT FIGHT HER LIKE THAT

He's gay and using you as a cover

im engaged to a guy whose best friend was a girl and they dated once then all they did was fight cause the knew so much about eachother and it didnt last. its the same as a girl having a guy bestfriend would you expect our bf to trust that you like him enough not to cheat on him, think of how he feels, talk to him about it and if he gets worked up about it just say im sorry i was just curious and treat him the way you want to be treated if you were him ok although some guys are heartless they still have feelings to ok and believe it or not boys do cry and get broken hearts. LARISSA

VOE is a loser! he lives in his moms basement and doesnt have a gf. why would he know about this stuff?

The option I would go for isn't on here, and that would be talk to your boyfriend about it. If you've been dating him that long, you should be able to tell if he's lying or avoiding an issue, or know if you can trust him enough to tell the truth. I would say before you do any of those other things, simply ask him about her, tell him it makes you nervous when he spends more time with her than he does with you, and tell him that you really like him, but you don't feel like he always pays enough attention to you. Don't be accusatory or anything, just make sure he knows how you feel, and then make further decisions based on how that conversation goes.

We all have a special friend to talk and tell all our little secrets to. The fact that his best friend is the opposite sex can, might and most likely create problems. First and largest problem is jealousy. Talk to him and find out what he wants. I don't mean ask him what he wants ;)Explore get the answers not from what he says. You may be loosing him so step in! Try being his girlfriend and best friend ;)

its a matter of if he is there 4 u or her...hes allowed 2 have friends but u shud be more important since u were 2getha b4 he met her u should talk 2 (not confront) the friend and c if u get the vibe that she wants ur man... and u should suggest to ur man that u hang out with him when he is with her sometimes... not all the time tho coz men need to be with other people not always their gf. PLUS try this to c if he is doing anything he shouldnt with his friend. outcome should help u decide what u want to do..you get a man friend that u hang out with and talk bout him 2 ur man. if he gets jealous than it means he thinks ur doin somethin with the man friend u shouldnt like he is with his friend. if he supports u having a new friend hes loyal. ps make sure he knows ur man friend isnt gay RJK

its normal for this sort of thing to happen, my best frend is a guy and his missus hates it.. but its as easy as deciding whether yu trust him or not.. if not, then im sure you kno where the door is.. no offence or netyhing but if its not what you want then y stay?

Is he going out with her? Is he sleeping with her? Is he kissing her? Does he regularly ( and I mean often) put you off to spend time with her? Is he doing anything with her that he wouldn't be doing with a guy friend? If not, you have nothing to complain about. On the other hand, if you can honestly say YES to any of the above, then you should plan your escape. VOE