My boyfriend is too laid back, and I have to shoulder it all

He cant think of what he wants to do with his life. Hes still in highschool (because he skipped all the time), doesnt have a job, and he wants me to move in with him. Im working full time to pay for university and I dont want to be responsible for him too. I love him, but I dont know what to say

Final Results

1st.
Break up with him, because he won't change
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69%
2nd.
Try and force him into a direction of somesort
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15%
3rd.
Explain my feelings(again- Ive done this before)
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8%
4th.
Stay with him, and hope he grows up
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8%
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Comments:

you've given him chances,. and some people dont change, or even just dont want to. maybe moving on will make him relise this
Added by Anonymous - 29 days ago
Being in the same situation, i suggest moving on. Its what i plan on doing. My boyfriend and I have spent some time apart, and the stress of his situation off my back, has made me a happier person. Everyone has to grow up, and accept that with age comes g
Added by Anonymous - about 1 month ago
For some people, life doesn't work out as easy as others! If u wanna be with him stay with him, but just explain, u cant move in with him unless he is helping out! Hopefully it will motivate him to achieve but means u can still b with him! If it drags on
Added by Anonymous - about 1 month ago
I think give him one more chance and explain if he doesn't change then its over
Added by Anonymous - about 1 month ago
It sounds like you guys are heading in 2 different directions, you may be able to fix it in the short term but it doesn't sounds like its goin to work long term, it maybe time to move on
Added by Anonymous - about 1 month ago
dump him... and tell him that once he's gotten his life sorted out and if your still single that maybe you can look at getting back together. but be clear that you can't be with someone who can't take care of himself.
Added by Anonymous - about 1 month ago
If he's not changed in that length of time, you should find a guy that's a bit more grown up.
Added by Anonymous - about 1 month ago
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