My best friends brother..... :/

seeing eachother secretly for 4 months now. We been on a few dates and had some sleep overs(no sex)He's very affectionate and tells me he likes me alot. But when we're apart we barely speak. And he often flops on plans saying he's busy.I really like him alot.Is it mutual? Should I tell my friend?

Final Results

1st.
Keep at it and tell my best friend..
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80%
2nd.
Give up and act like it never happened..
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20%

Comments:

i dont know why you are keeping such a big secret from your bestie but i would be MADD if you did this to me, so confess right away.
Added by Anonymous - 6 months ago
Tell your friend. My friend had a crush on my brother, and she barely knew him. I had to hear from my brother that she tried talking to him, getting him to sit at her lunch table, and even giving him a note. Since she didn't tell me, things between us got really awkward, and now we're not even friends. I haven't spoken to her in two years. Tell her.
Added by Anonymous - 6 months ago
Tell your friend -- wouldnt you want to know if that was you?? Tell her and live in honesty and not in lies.
Added by Anonymous - 6 months ago
Talk to your boyfriend (the brother) and decide together to tell the friend. I am sure that she will understand! And enjoy your new romance! Matty
Added by Anonymous - 6 months ago
The first thing you need to do is tell your friend, since it is the right thing to do. From there, what you decide really depends upon the two of you....but secretive is not the way to go. Jess
Added by Anonymous - 6 months ago
Yes, tell your friend but only after you and he agree that you can. Don't do anything that he might interpret as betrayal. His inexperience explains a lot. Be patient. He's probably worth it. Thanks for the response and for clearing things up. Must have had my eyes crossed or something when I read it the first time. VOE
Added by Anonymous - 6 months ago
We both agreed to keep it a secret for now. Also, he's not my brothers friend, He's my best friends brother.. Which is why I'm so worried about what she thinks. I know he's not in a relationship and he is definitely not married. He's rather, inexperienced with woman.. He's only been with 2 girl's in his life... Other then me. He's not too much older then me, I am 21 and he is 24. Thanks for the input :) appreciate it.
Added by Anonymous - 6 months ago
You need to tell your friend but then also have a talk with this guy and try to figure out where all of this is going. If you get the feeling he is ashamed of you, then walk away. Steph
Added by Anonymous - 6 months ago
Whose idea is it to be secretive? If it's mutual, then OK. If it is his, then the question is why? If he was an older man, I would almost guess that he's married just by the way he is so secretive and how he suddenly bails out on you. Since he's your brother's friend, I'm assuming that you would know if he is in a relationship with someone else. Something tells me that you are a pleasant distraction when he doesn't have anything else to do. I know that's not flattering but it seems that way. I'm not sure what telling your friend would accomplish. VOE
Added by Anonymous - 6 months ago

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