make it last?

NAA get a new man bit younger !!!

Do you really want to marry an army man, and then when he goes away, your vag to want sex and for you to cheat and then feel guilty?! Break it off thats too complicated of a path/life to go on. you are 20 and need to do so much more w your life before you become a boring army-wife. my parents didn't get married til my mom was 37 and my dAD 49! please wait, you will regret if you dont...

There is no reason to believe that the two of you can't make it -- if you go about it the right way and go slow and never feel pressured. The age difference should not matter much!! Scotty

I don't think you would have a very happy life with him! But I think that since you are 20 and he is 30 is an added bonus on why you should not be together! Tell the man to not be a ''Hugh Hefner''

I'm from a huge military base town and there is a chance you could make it, however you are so young and what you want/need for yourself and your life will change. You think it wont, but it will. I was living with my boyfriend of many years when I turned 22 and what I wanted out of life and myself changed. It was harder on him then myself to leave because he was 8 years older than me and already had time to figure out what he wanted out of life. The age difference between you two isn't as much a red flag as your age. It is going to grow harder and harder for you to remain close to someone while he is away for months and so much in yourself and your life is changing.

Of course you have a chance but you do have several factors that could work against you. Age difference is one, of course, and the other is that he will be away for long periods. Maturity counts for something but there are other things that are affected by age differences. For instance his interests are likely going to be different, his taste in music, movies, books, television, hobbies, friends are just some of the things that could be different. He will be gone for several weeks of basic training where he will have no contact with you at all. Then it's off to other training and finally, after several months, he will be assigned duties somewhere. It could be somewhere that you could join him but it also could be somewhere dangerous. It all adds up to a lot of alone time for you. VOE