Falling in love with someone taken...

What exactly do you feel ? Is it love ? Or do you think its love. Sometimes it is very hard for us to determine if we are actually falling in love. I'm going through the same situation atm. I met her approx 12 years ago and only when I found out she is dating it made me furious!! Not the fact that she is dating but the fact that I was too afraid to speak up. Many of us are afraid of the refusal which is very common. But I realize I would rather be refused than too late. But one thing that I'm sure of!!! If you want him/her go get it!!! There is a lot of competition and it may be very hard :( Just be yourself and be true show and tell what your feelings are. Don't push and speak up!!! Just my honest opinion I may be wrong. Just another heartbroken guy.

This all sounds very one sided. You have the hots for him but he barely knows you're alive. I suggest that you leave him alone for now. If he and his gf break up, then you can let him know. At that time you can say, "I waited until now to tell you because I didn't want to cause you any problems while you two were together. Now that you're not, I want you to know that I'm interested." This shows intelligence and maturity. I also avoids warfare between you and his ex. VOE

Well he's dating someone.. they've been together for 1 year now. I haven't told him how I feel by the fright of him, leaving (he could still be a great friend no?) I do not know how he feels either.. Should I ask?Talk to him about it etc? Or let him do the next moves and see where it leads?

Is he dating someone else? Living with someone else? Engaged to someone else? Married to someone else? Each is a different level of committment. If he is heavily committed in a relationship, then you should not be the one who breaks them up. He should live up to his committment. Does he know how you feel? Does he feel the same? The next move is his, moreso than yours. You had better find out where you stand and what he wants. You could be wasting your time. VOE