dear dcyder:

ive been seeing a man for almost a yr he lives 45 mins away from me and is 9yrs older, i drive there alot but a few times i cldnt & that upsets him alot, he says this is y we arent fully together, even though we say i love you, im getting tired of waiting,& i wont have sex with him unless were tgher

Final Results

1st.
call it quits
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55%
2nd.
just keep taking it slow
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45%

Comments:

Arghhhh! It is over and he is not nice! Find a cool dude to call your own right where you live. You should want better for your life!!
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
Yep, time to call it quits. He is not being fair to you! He is actually kinda being mean to you! Think about your options.
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
Look, he's 9 years older than you. His interests and lifestyle, regardless of what you think, are very different from yours. You have some insecurities that he considers juvenile and he really doesn't want to deal with them. You are looking more and more like a child to him than an adult because of it. I honestly think you would both be happier if you were with someone closer to your own age. VOE
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
He sounds like he is being manipulative and making you feel bad even though you have done nothing, essentially, wrong. Do you want to be treated like that? Do you deserve better? Yes!! Steph
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
hes not seeing anybody else, by "fully together" i mean he isnt really my "boyfriend" we're just kind of seeing eachother, we've had a few bad fights because i have trust issues so he said he wanted us to slow down so i could get over this issue, but sometimes i feel like im not good enough, and i cant change who i am for him, i guess i just havve my doubts sometimes because sometimes i feel okay about taking things slow, is it normal to have doubts like these in a relationship??
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
Seems to me that bach person in a relationship needs to contribute almost equally and that is not happening in this case. Is he really all that into you? He should not be trying to make you feel guilty if you are doing most of the work. DeeDee
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago
It sounds like you are making all of the effort in this relationship. It should be give and take but it sounds like you do most or all of the giving. It also sounds like he may be a bit controlling. Watch out for that. You don't say what you're "waiting" for and I'm not sure what you mean by fully together. Is he seeing someone else besides you? Whatever the case, it appears that you have reached a point where you think you may be better off without him. Frankly, I don't think he's that into this relationship and it may be time to end it. VOE
Added by Anonymous - 4 months ago

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