Crossed Love

Ppl like you get all the brains. I just get to say thanks for he ansewr.

I continue to check this post to see if you've answered in the comments that you've broken off with the abuser. I haven't given up on you. Please answer, one way or the other.

Your post has expired but please respond that you've ditched the abuser. This is important and I would like to know that you are safe. VOE

My, my! The words you choose. "verbal mainly." The key word is mainly which means, to me, that sometimes it's more than verbal. PLEASE take my original advice !!!! Don't wait for him to end it, you do it now. And respond back that you did. VOE

verbal mainly. but like he "play fights" he realises he hurts me. he's stopped for now. but like at the moment hes reaalllllllly distant so i think he could be on with someone else also.... ?

whats the abuse?

Care to elaborate? VOE

well the whole things progressed and yeah theres more to the story..

im intrigued. please continue?

DUMP THE ABUSER, if you haven't already. Don't go back there, ever. Even if at some point he claims to have changed. Don't do it! So you have a new guy and you've already given it up to him. Not smart. Of course that's what he wants. That's what you've given him. You need to start over with someone new and develop a relationship where you present your personality, likes and dislikes, sense of humor, intellect, etc., first rather than your, well, you know what. This may take weeks or even months, assuming that you want a real relationship and not just a matress dance partner. What I find amazing is that you think there is something meaningful in that he listened to music with you after the last boinking session. Are you serious???? VOE