Boyfriend might be gay

I went through my boyfriends email and found that he's been using craigslist to find threesomes, men to give him oral sex (although he says hes straight) and a variety of women to hook-up with, since before we started talking & during. I have to confront him but I don't want him to know I snooped.

Final Results

1st.
Tell him I looked & talk about it, try to work it out
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59%
2nd.
Break up with him
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41%

Comments:

You should def talk about it because you need to know for your own health what exactly has been going on. Its important to know, just in case you were exposed to contract certain types of diseases.
Added by Anonymous - 12 months ago
I think you should just admit to snooping. Tell him your sorry but glad you did it because now you know the truth and want to give him a chance to explain himself. Be totally supportive but don't stay with him. At the end of the day he likes boys and your a girl and nothing can change that. Try and be positive maybe you can be the supportive friend that understands him and keeps his secret instead of being the cover-up girlfriend who gets cheated on and he resents for snooping out his secret.
Added by Anonymous - 12 months ago
You should probably break up with this guy. If he is gay, then there is just no way around that and no way to save the romance.
Added by Anonymous - 12 months ago
I think I would assume him to be gay or at least bi. You should talk to him and support him. If he is just bi it does not mean you can not have a relationship. And if he is gay he is obviously hiding it and will probably need a friend when all comes out. Talk to him in a supportive and understanding way to try to understand the full story.-MissTess
Added by Anonymous - 12 months ago
I'm not sure how you could work it out, he likes guys and you're a girl. Talking to him isn't going to change the way that he feels I'm afraid
Added by Anonymous - 12 months ago
Yeah I think its pretty much confirmed that if he's organizing oral sex with guys that he's gay, even if other girls are involved. Either way I think you need to move on, though it will be hard to break up with him without telling him that you snooped, mayb just hide the real reason you're breaking up with him say its just your feelings have changed or something...
Added by Anonymous - 12 months ago
I am concerned that he is trying to arrange sexual encounters with strangers which puts his health and yours in jeopardy. Obviously he is gay or bi but more importantly he is reckless. Get away from him. VOE
Added by Anonymous - 12 months ago
preach sister.
Added by Anonymous - 12 months ago
I once dated a gay guy.and let me just tell you.you dont want to try and "work it out with him" even if he says hes bi.HES GAY
Added by Anonymous - 12 months ago
Oh my gosh! That's exactly why me and my boyfriend broke up! I seen some signs and my mom was saying he was gay.. But, I never thought it was true but then I really thought he was and the truth is he really was gay.
Added by Anonymous - 12 months ago

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