am i too lazy??

i work real hard but when i get home i just can't do the house work and my wife is starting to get really annoyed - i just don't have the energy though.

Final Results

1st.
put her straight
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50%
2nd.
work a little less
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50%

Comments:

Your family is so much more important than work will ever be. If you work so hard that your wife leaves you because she feels neglected, then you will be hurt and alone. And, all the money in the world will not fix that. Sammy
Added by Anonymous - about 1 year ago
No matter how tired you are when you get home, you should participate in at least some of the housework. So that there is no confusion, you and your wife should work out a plan where each day or each week you do a specific list of chores. Even if it is just two things per evening, that would be a help to her. That way, each one of you knows just what to expect from the other person. BBR
Added by Anonymous - about 1 year ago
As a member of your household, you should have some responsibilities however they should be proportional to your external responsibilities as well. If you and your wife have full time jobs, then the responsibilities are more or less 50/50. Your lack of energy is another issue. You should audit your lifestyle to see if you are eating right, getting enough sleep, getting enough excercise, etc. You don't mention your age but that is a factor as well. A medical checkup wouldn't hurt, either. VOE
Added by Anonymous - about 1 year ago
You need to look at having more balance in your life. If you are both working full time then both need to contribute equally in the household. However, if you are the breadwinner and she's at home, then she should do the housework.
Added by Anonymous - about 1 year ago
If you've got no energy maybe look at your diet and the amount of exercise you do. These may help you find more energy and be able to work hard and do your house work. Sar
Added by Anonymous - about 1 year ago
I think there needs to be a balance and understanding, if you're working hard to put food on the table she can't expect you to do everything but at the same time you do need to do something. So speak to her and try to get that balance where maybe you do less
Added by Anonymous - about 1 year ago
You work to support her (and your family?) If all she does is stay at home then she should appreciate that you work hard at your job to support her. Your job is outside of the home and her job is the home. So she should stop and let you be.
Added by Anonymous - about 1 year ago
tell her how you feel and if you're so low on energy when you get home either work a little less or maybe there is something wrong with you
Added by Anonymous - about 1 year ago

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